Lessons Learned.

In my last post, I mentioned how a few weeks ago I felt like a failure for not following through on many of my 2017 goals. However, I did become aware of something very important.  I came to understand that even though my 2017 didn’t turn out the way I had planned it and though it wasn’t as productive as I had hoped, I’ve gained so much in the lessons I learned.

At the beginning of 2017, I stated how I wanted to go deeper in the Lord and that had become my word for the year. Little did I know that God had planned me to go deeper by experience, not just in practice of the principles I had hoped to apply to my life. Think of it in a way similar to on the job training, but instead He took me through some “real life training.” It is there where He exposed me to different situations to force me to grow out of my comfort zone instead of comfortably sitting there planning what I’d change. Through these growing experiences, I’ve learned a few very important lessons.

Distractions are real. I think that this may have been one of the biggest reasons I hadn’t followed through with many of my goals. I had let people and situations and lack of motivation get in my way. Be intentional with your time, money, and even your relationships. When something starts interfering with your walk with God, it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate. If it proves to be a major distraction that’s taking away from your life instead of adding value to it, remove it.

Don’t change who you are at your core to try to fit someone else’s expectations of you. God made you uniquely you for a reason. Yes, we all have things we can work on and ways in which we need to grow. But it is important to let go of the people who are constantly trying to change YOU. You have a God-designed purpose that only you can fill. Your values, your passions, your purpose matters to God. He’s the only One you should be living to please.

People will make time for what they want to. The people who truly love and care about you will make time for you. They will go out of their way for you, treat you with respect, and value your feelings and opinions. They will make you feel secure and let you know that your voice matters. They are the ones who will lift you up and encourage you and not tear you down every time you talk to them. Find more of these people in your life and surround yourself with them, for they will be your long-lasting relationships. This principle is a two-way street, and you must do the same for others. Show the people in your life that you care about them by making more time for them, even when it’s a bit inconvenient. But remember that relationships are worth investing in.

Fear shouldn’t define your life. I’ve had off and on battles with anxiety for about 4 years now. It’s been a real struggle, but God has brought me this far and I know that I will not have to live with this battle inside of me forever. My greatest flaw is that (because of things that happened when I was younger) I’ve become a natural worrier because I tend to care too much about the outcome. But the Bible says to “be anxious for nothing.” We are children of the King, and He cares about us so much that He gave us His Word which is full of promises. There’s no need to worry because He provides for His children. It may feel last minute, but God’s timing is truly perfect. There truly is nothing to fear.

Trusting in Jesus is all that matters. To truly trust in God and His Word is to literally give Him everything. Every worry. Every doubt. Every fear. Every relationship. Every financial decision. Your job. Everything belongs to God and God alone, and He has the final say. Begin and end your day emptying yourself of all your worries and doubts. Give Him your relationships, attitudes, habits, and situations. Lay them at the altar during your devotion time, and leave them there.

Some of you may be looking at this year with excitement, or others with dread. But I encourage you to choose to look at this year as one with new opportunities. You may not check off every single goal, or you accomplish them all! What’s important is that you live this year with expectation and anticipation of opportunities to grow in the Lord and to find His perfect will for your life.

2016 Reflections

Well, it’s been over a year since my last post… right when one year comes to a close, and as enter a New Year (not to mention, today is also my birthday – YAY!). I didn’t mean for it to be this long. It kind of just happened. The truth is, it was a much welcomed break. During this time, I’ve done a lot of growing and finding my place. It’s been a year of self-discovery, direction, and purpose. A year of looking back at where I’ve been, and finally knowing where I’m headed.cropped-kristina.jpg

As I reflect on these things, I can’t help but look forward to what the future holds. There’s something about the idea of a new year that exhilarates us and brings us this kind of expectation. The idea of a clean slate, a fresh start, inspires us to do better and to BE better.

Though it had some disappointments, this year wasn’t too shabby. I didn’t go into it with any particular goals in mind other than growing closer to God (which we should strive to do daily anyway). But with that said, some pretty cool things did happen this year…

  • I became the Lead Editor of my friend Nina’s online magazine.
  • I submitted a few posts to an online blog for young Apostolic millennials.
  • Overcame Anxiety
  • I started a prayer journal… best decision I ever made.
  • I finished my personal journal (which I’ve never done before).
  • I went river-tubing… super fun!
  • Traveled to DC with the best young adults group ever
  • Started a blog for The Bridge
  • Made some life-long friends.

Every year, I try to go into the New Year with a word or phrase that becomes my focus for the year – a mantra if you will. I was talking with a friend this week about this and I told her, “I just want to go deeper with God!” So this year, I’m going deeper… with God, in my relationships with others, and myself – my dreams and purpose.  And I intend to incorporate my theme this year into this blog.

Though I didn’t come into 2016 with any actual goals, I am going into 2017 with a few in mind. They range from spiritual to personal and everything in between… These are pretty general, but this is just to give you all an idea so you can write some of your own goals for 2017… if you haven’t already. 😉

  • Relationship with God – Actually study my Bible… not just read it. Pray more. Fast more. Devote more time on things in the Kingdom rather than the things of this world. Serve humbly. Love with His eyes. Being sensitive to His spirit.
  • Relationship with others – Making more time for family and friends. Truly listening to understand, rather than to respond. To shoot down all gossip and negativity. Serve my community. Encouraging the people in my life to pursue their goals, passions, dreams, and God-given purpose.
  • Relationship with myself – Eat healthier. Exercise (ugh). Read more books (the goal is at least 20). Become better at time management. Develop a budget (aka: adulting). Take time to treat myself at least once a week (it could be a nice long bath, binge watching my favorite show, getting a massage… the list is endless haha). Be screen free after 9pm every evening (I’ve tried this before and it’s hard… but y’all, it’s life-changing when you stick to it). Develop good sleep habits and wake up earlier every day.

While I have goals for myself, I have goals for this blog as well… and that is to incorporate this theme of “deeper” into my writing this year and focusing on the topics above… more about that in a later post. I also plan on branching out and utilizing other social media platforms this year. I believe that as we go on this journey together in 2017, it’s important that we connect and grow together.

I’m looking forward to all that 2017 holds as we go DEEPER together!


So what are some of your goals for 2017? List 5 things you want to accomplish in 2017 in the comments below… I’d love to hear all about it!

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Leather & Mint {Sunday Best}

It’s been a while since I’ve done an outfit of the day//Sunday best post. And to be quite honest, they’re pretty fun and I look forward to doing more! 🙂That Christian Girl || Inspiring young women to be the woman God created them to be! || #ootd #SundayBest

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A Sneak Peak of What’s to Come!

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Some things to look forward to:

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  • Interviews

  • & MORE!

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2015 Reading List – May

I absolutely LOVE books. And I love BUYING books!!! However, I have one major dilemma. I keep buying more books than I actually read. Like seriously, y’all have no idea. I have piles of books around my room that are just waiting to be cracked open. So I’ve decided to try something new. Each month, I’m going to have a ‘reading list.’ This is where I’ll choose 2-3 books that I want to finish by the end of the month. And by posting them here, I am making myself accountable to you. 🙂

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